GUIDELINE FOR MUSLIM PARENTS:

COMMUNICATION

To manage a family with minimal conflict, energy and stress there has to be effective communication between all members of the family. As parents, this is something we have to teach and monitor on an ongoing basis until all family members get it right. The kind of communication that you have with your kids while they are young is the kind of communication that id likely to stay between you unless
a conscious effort is made to correct the problem.

Communications between family members are basically of three types:
· One way
· Argumentative
· Two way

At the same time we must impart to members of our house hold the Islamic etiquettes pertaining to communicating with each other, like:

· Kindness to each other
· Do not become angry
· Do not call each other by offensive names
· Be willing to forgive

The Prophet (SAW) reminds us,
“Allah is kind and loves kindness in all affairs.”

A technique for managing our anger is outlined with the following hadith:
“When one of you is standing and becomes angry he should sit down. If the anger leaves him, well and good, otherwise, he should lie down.” (Ahmad and Tirmidhi)